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Safe haven
laws:
1. Will not ultimately reduce the number of abandoned babies because those
who abandon babies do so regardless of any laws,
2. Encourage the abandonment of children by providing an alternative which
only appears to be the easiest solution for new parents,
3. Assume that the opportunity
to anonymously drop off a baby holds no long-term consequences for the
parents of the child, and only positive consequences for the child,
4. Deny the child knowledge
of his or her identity and heritage permanently,
5. Deny the mother and father
any future information about their child, information which will most
likely become needed after the mother and father have come to terms with
their loss and grief,
6. Prevent reunion permanently
and cause grievous pain and suffering to many children (later adults),
natural parents and families,
7. Deny children knowledge
of their medical histories, permanently, a tragedy which will, with certainty,
result in the suffering and deaths of some individuals,
8. Allow governments to avoid
dealing with the causes and solutions to major social issues affecting
our societies, in particular: support to women faced with unplanned pregnancies,
homelessness; public education and support for dissemination of birth
control; family abuse and homeless youth; and mental illness,
9. Foster the cruel and unwarranted
stereotype of natural mothers as heartless abandoners,
10. Facilitate kidnapping and/or
coercion of mothers in marketing of babies by those who profit from adoption,
11. Circumvent certain knowledge
that both natural parents have willingly given informed consent to surrender
their babies,
12. Promote and sustain a climate
of secrecy in adoption without regard for the well-documented consequences
to secrecy in adoption including abandonment, the life-long disability
so often spoken of by adopted people and recognized by adoption professionals,
13. Remove all legal rights
from the natural mother and father prior to or without providing them
with the opportunity for counselling, to ask for and receive legal, moral,
emotional and economic support to enable them to keep their baby or to
make an alternative plan,
14. Remove the right of extended
kin to first have the opportunity to raise the child within kinship networks,
culture and community,
15. Do permanent damage to
mothers, fathers, children and families.
March 8, 2003
©
The Canadian Council of Natural Mothers. March 2003, written by Karen
Lynn. This document is the property of the Canadian Council of Natural
Mothers, www.ccnm-mothers.ca. You may copy and distribute this page provided
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